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what you need to grow through tough times

Dear Determined One, I know you are tired, and I know that you have tried. Tried to grow through tough times. Tried to be a better person, better partner, better parent. This isn’t just about rallying your motivation yet again. It is about doing the journey differently. If it was only about hard work and effort, you would definitely be there by now, and these words would be irrelevant. This is about doing goals, doing life, differently. To grow through tough times, to embark on this journey and to get different results than your efforts in the past, you will also need to prepare for the journey differently. In the past, when I was determined to change a part of my…
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Don’t Give Up Before You See Results

You would never get halfway to a prized destination, only to turn around because you thought you should be there by now. No, you would check the map, take a pee break, grab some snacks, and keep going until you get there. Yet, when it comes to personal growth, we often throw the towel in when we don’t see the results we think we should see. “Are we there yet?” It’s a phrase that will drive any parent batty when they have heard it for the umpteenth time, but my soul has asked me this question repeatedly as I venture on, reaching for a breakthrough. So, do you want the bad news first or the good news? Here’s the bad news: most change that we…
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This one change might be your key to breakthrough

Perception is the window through which we see the world, interpreting people’s actions, tone, words and body language. It is the filter we use to decide if we are safe, if we are liked, or if we will succeed. It has the power to discourage us or lift us up to new heights. It has the power to fuel our heart’s desires or leave us feeling hopeless and alone. How can something with such a huge impact vary so significantly in outcome? Because our perception is invisible to us, like water is to a fish, and we often mistake the interpretations of our perception as true. Here, try this on with me for a moment. You are walking down the…
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How not to Manage Your Emotions: 2 Rookie Mistakes

One of the greatest hurdles we need to overcome in this process of growth and change is our emotions. More accurately, this is the biggest potential obstacle that needs to be put in its rightful place. Emotions aren’t good or bad, even though they may feel good or bad. They are simply communicators. They communicate what is going on beneath the surface. When we learn to manage our emotions, as communicators, we align with a powerful place of awakened choice. Often though, we respond to our emotions in one of two destructive ways. #1 We give into our emotions as if they had complete power over us. If I am sad, then I am sad. There is no choice. When I manage…
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How to Unsubscribe from your Pain

I always feel like a used car salesman when I bring up forgiveness because I am often trying to sell my clients something that they think they don’t want or need. In this case, though, freedom from pain, to stop thinking about ‘it’, to feel better, and to not be afraid of ‘it’ happening again is exactly what they want. If you want to unsubscribe from your pain, keep reading. Can you relate? Does it feel like forgiveness is giving up something as opposed to gaining something? Even if you think you know what forgiveness is, humour me for a moment. Come check out this vehicle of transformation that many people misunderstand. THE IMPACT OF HOLDING ONTO OUR PAIN At my…
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Change: It is hard and worth it.

It is not easy. All of it is hard. Being in healthy relationships, being a nurturing parent, living your best life (or even knowing what that means). What makes the struggle even harder is the lack of clarity around what we are actually trying to accomplish in this life. Be happy? What is that anyway? A feeling? A state of being that we can eventually get to and then kick up our feet and enjoy? Despite having a mad passion for personal growth at a young age (which didn’t exactly make me the life of the party), I struggled with lack of clarity in what I was trying to accomplish by pursuing growth and change. This is probably why I…
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